asfenmybest.blogg.se - Emotional extortion

There may be many reasons for partners behaving in this way. If you feel you have to change your actions to accommodate your partner’s behaviour, it’s abusive. If you feel like your partner is stopping you from being able to express yourself, it’s abusive. If your partner’s behaviour makes you feel small, controlled or as if you’re unable to talk about what’s wrong, it’s abusive. They may feel like their partner shouts at them a lot or makes them feel bad, but think ‘abuse’ would be too ‘dramatic’ a word to use.īut the point about whether the behaviour is abusive, is how it makes you feel. Sometimes, people wonder whether ‘abuse’ is the right term to describe any relationship difficulties they’re going through. Does your partner tell you when and where you can go out, or even stop you from seeing certain people? Do they try to control how you dress or how you style your hair? As the examples above make clear, emotional abuse is generally about control. Telling you what you can and can’t do.

This could be done as a way of stopping you from feeling independent and that you’re able to make your own choices. This can be withholding money, not involving you in finances or even preventing you from getting a job. This can range from outright emotional blackmail (threats to kill oneself or lots of emotional outbursts) to sulking all the time or giving you the silent treatment as a way of manipulating you. It can also involve making you doubt your own opinion by acting as if you're being oversensitive if you do complain, disputing your version of events or by suddenly being really nice to you after being cruel.

Undermining. This might include things like dismissing your opinion.

This can really lower a person’s self-esteem and self-confidence. This could be things like namecalling or making lots of unpleasant or sarcastic comments. This is often done as a way of making a person feel small and stopping them from standing up for themselves. This could be things like shouting, acting aggressively or just generally making you feel scared. There are a variety of types of behaviour that could be classed as emotional abuse.

The Serious Crime Act 2015 makes behaviour that is ‘controlling or coercive” towards another person in an intimate or family relationship’ punishable by a prison term of up to five years. They might know it has something to do with treating your partner badly – name calling or making them feel small – but not be clear on what’s actually classed as emotional abuse, or whether it’s really as serious as other types.īut if you’re on the receiving end, it can be just as damaging and upsetting – and this is reflected in the law. Most people know what physical abuse is, but when it comes to emotional abuse, people tend to think there’s much more of a ‘grey area’.